An Apologia for Countess Erzebet Bathory: Jonathan Frid Is the Immortal Barnabas Collins
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Tuesday, May 9, 2017
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Wednesday, April 26, 2017
Thanks to our own Concord Law School, retrieved from https://www.concordlawschool.edu/student-life/law-day/s
Friday, April 21, 2017
How do you cope with the loss of a loved one or the loss of a job for that matter? There are many different ways, but at the same time, there are also different stages of it. I know this from personal experience all too well. When I was five months pregnant with my son, my mother passed away from lung cancer. A month later, my cousin that was honestly more like a brother, was beaten to death. Four days after my four year old son was born, tragedy struck again when my 36 year old sister passed away. Unfortunately, I have not taken the time to grieve or learned to cope.
I do know along with coping difficulty comes depression. In my experience I fell in a deep depression. With the depression came changes in weight: weight loss, weight gain, appetite increase, appetite loss. Sleeping hours came too few and far in between. It was horrible. Coping with loss does not necessarily mean the loss of a loved one. It can be loss of a job, loss of house, financial change, just anything drastic. Either way, it is not an easy process to go through. As I mentioned earlier, I have not taken the time really to grieve any of the loss; this oversight is actually common. They call this detachment or Cognitive Disorder.
Most people just mourn and accept the fact of the loss. Well, with this disorder, it is more like just pretending that you have accepted the fact and moved on. Me, for example, with my mother I was 5 months pregnant and still in my senior year of high school. I cried of course, more like bawled like a child just wanting their mother to hold them. I went back to school and pushed through it. It hurt so badly to face everyone, but I did it for my baby. Still being in high school when he was born was not an option for me. That was my distraction. Four days after I graduated I had Damian. Still, I did not grieve. I was a mommy; I did not have time to think about me. I started working taking and care of my sister just to stay busy. ReNae had cancer just like mommy. In 2012, I had my second child, Caden. Four days after he was born, she passed away. Just like before, I cried but I never took time to really grieve. I had two now, work, and just whatever else I could find to keep my mind off of them. I would call my sister every day, just like before, just to find they had shut off her phone. I would still catch myself talking about my mother and sister like they were still here. Now I have accepted that they are gone, but I will not allow myself to grieve.
. You may be asking what is grieving. Well grieving is learning to live without something. Everyone is different. There is no correct or incorrect way to go about it. Just actually doing it. I hope that this reaches somebody and lets them know it is okay to deal with loss. Just do not let it over take you. Do not let it just bottle up for years and let it eat at you. It has been almost 8 years for my mother and 5 for my sister, and I didn’t take time then. Now I suffer from insomnia at times, severe depression, and certain things trigger all of that. Songs that we would sing together are now nothing but tears falling. Pictures just let me think they are still here. Videos are unbearable. Please don’t let this become you. Not saying every now and then you can just let it out, but for me it is daily.
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Tuesday, February 14, 2017
Stress for Success
What is Stress?
Stress is an everyday obstacle in life. Whether it be mild, moderate or severe, stress is present in virtually every aspect of any given situation imaginable. Nobody is immune to stress, and everybody experiences it one way or another. Staying on top of stress can help individuals build relationships, careers, and even themselves. Stress can be good or bad, no matter how intense or docile. There are three (3) different categories, or degrees of stress.
Starting with the most common, is acute stress. Anybody that might be running late for work or school, or maybe forgot to grab their coffee in the morning are likely to suffer from acute stress. These are the small, but manageable situations that cause us to derail from our presumed routines for just a few moments. It happens to everybody, and individuals typically move on without much reluctance. The next kinds of stress are considered to be more moderate to severe, respectively. Sometimes they are preventable, and sometimes they are not. Episodic acute stress is when several acute stress situations are strung together into a more habitual series. An example would be forgetting to grab a coffee, while running late to work, and the car has no gas to get all the way to the workplace. The difference between regular “acute stress” and “episodic acute stress” is the reoccurring scenarios, like the example, would be a daily routine. Individuals that suffer from episodic acute stress are those that are simply used to this way of life. To them, that is just how life is, and they often fail to see anything wrong with it. These individuals are one of two personality types: aggressive, and abrupt, or careless and low energy. Regardless of which type an individual may be, they can only change their lifestyles with a conscious effort inhibited by persistent reassurance that they are doing the right thing. Lastly, the most severe cases of stress that is detrimental to not only the victim suffering, but people that are around them as well. Chronic stress is life changing. Violence, Suicide, and even cancer are common factors when dealing with chronic stress. This is the most serious kind of stress that a human can experience. If it can be deemed “treatable”, then it is highly recommended that treatment is accepted and embraced.
Stress management is important for those that want to achieve happiness, and be successful in life. No matter how simple or severe the stress may be, dealing with it in a positive manner will encourage others to do the same. You can be the benefactor for stressed people all around you. You can make a difference, and for your own benefit, you should always try.
Stress-Kinds. Retrieved from: http://apa.org/helpcenter/stress-kinds.aspx
Friday, February 3, 2017
Expressing Yourself Informally- Blog Post
Get with the Times, Become a Modernized Leader Today!”
“the change in technology over the past few years. Right now, you may think that just hiring somebody and training them, should be enough for them to be able to do their job. Maybe you are even thinking that if you pay them well enough, they will do well enough. That does not seem to be the case anymore. The younger generations, like myself, seem to be interested in more than just wealth. Appreciation and acknowledgement can go a long way. Instead of telling your employees what to do all the time, give them a greater reason for doing this task. Example: You know every morning the employee stocks the kitchen, and they find themselves behind and stressed. Have a meeting, engage with the employees. Let them know you are all in this together. If the person who closed the kitchen at night would stock, then the morning person will not be so overwhelmed. In turn the kitchen will be ready for the night person when they come in, and the night crew will have time to prepare for the morning crew. This can also prevent customers from having a bad experience.
Now, do not let the technology of being able to see more customer reviews scare you, or blind you from your future business plans. Use the reviews as insight. If multiple reviews say that a certain employee is unpleasant, you need to use that information. Observe that employee and point out their strengths, understand what they are going through. Show that you appreciate what they have done. Listen to your employees; if you have unhappy employees, then you are going to have unhappy customers. If you have a great environment, where the workers are happy, it is contagious. I always thought of those employees as toxic, meaning they make everyone unhappy, and to remove them from the problem. This article states to not look at the problems, look at solutions. Customers are more likely to ignore the price of things if the environment is worth it. Now if you have Mr. or Mrs. Grouch as the first thing they experience when they walk into your establishment, your customer is immediately affected. Would you want to spend money in a place where you felt uncomfortable or unhappy? You will find that often pointing out what an employee is doing wrong, or not engaging yourself with the employees, you will have unhappy employees on your hands. Like I said earlier, customers are affected by your employees and environment. Learn and adjust to your business, do not spend your time strategizing on what to do. Go ahead, use technology, use those customer reviews. Make the customers a part of your business. They may not always be right, but they definitely have a point of view that you do not get. Are you still; commanding, tracking, pointing out the bad? Maybe it is time for you to try; engaging, observing, appreciating and empowering your employees. You may see a difference sooner that you know it! I hope this has put some ease to your frustrations.
Tuesday, January 31, 2017
"Teeter Tottering for Adults" as explained by Ashley Hupp
In this article, the author Tony Schwartz traveled to Austin, TX for a conference to discuss “fueling sustainable productivity by balancing periods of fully absorbed attention with intermittent renewal”. He says that, “we need a series of deliberate practices to counter the powerful forces so accelerating our lives”. I found his choice of words to be very powerful and they immediately caught my attention.
We all struggle daily trying to balance out work and our personal life. Time. There never seems to be enough of it. So, my intentions for writing this post are to provide some insight into turning the dream of balance into reality. Perfect balance, I do not believe, is an achievable goal. But working to find a balance that fits your life and work is attainable.
One way is to say “no” Learn to prioritize and say “no.” Most of us are already on overload between work, school, family, etc. Most often, we bite off more than we can chew, but there is a solution for that. Are there ways to delegate responsibilities? Are there things we are doing that we can move to the bottom of the list to make room for what is most important? Say no to taking on new. There is already enough on our life to-do list, piling up more responsibility is just going to exhaust you.
Write it down! Writing out ideas or thoughts throughout the day will help to keep our minds from being on overload and will make focusing more easily. Creating more space in our days allows us to take a step back and refocus. You may be wondering how that could be possible with your busy schedule, but try fitting in small breaks to absorb everything. Studies show that human beings are not meant to multi-task. We do far better finishing one task and moving on to the next. The quality of work is far superior and we are more likely to retain what we learn.
Another topic the author brings up is, Revisit and Reevaluate. He talks about keeping journals and occasionally going back to revisit some of his ideas. Revisiting ideas allows you to look them over with a fresh point of view. Sometimes allowing you to weed out what will work and what will not. Never a bad idea to reevaluate your approach to a task or idea. And the author’s final piece of advice is to take regular breaks from technology. Disconnect. While trying to manage your time and your schedule, try to fit in breaks from your phone, laptop, etc. We are an era that relies heavily on digital devices. Getting away from those for even small amounts of time, allows us to accomplish other tasks. Such as, spending time with your spouse and/or children, finally fixing that leaky faucet, or finishing up the last few chapters in the book you have been reading for a month.
I do not accept that there is a reason work and/or school should overshadow other aspects of your life. With a little work, or in some cases a lot of work, I believe that everyone can eventually find their balance.